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Two dogs, two loves, one family

When Teddy walked off the rescue van and into my life, I thought that having just one dog was perfect.  He had been billed as a dog who was happy to be an only dog, happy to be someone’s one and only.  That suited me too.  His warm, intelligent brown eyes watched my every move with approval, he loved our walks together and just hanging out.  He would put his head in my lap when I sat down and lean against me when I stood.  He was the perfect combination of polite but devoted.

One dog, one person.  Exactly the right number.

Teddy leans into Chelsea. Guess who has his toy?

A few months later, I was back on Lucky Lab Rescue’s site.  It wouldn’t hurt to look, I reasoned, just to read about other dogs looking for homes.  Then I saw Chelsea, a beautiful golden girl with a pink nose.  I quickly shut my laptop closed and said no way. 

The next day I went back on the site and I did it again the day after that.  I clicked on the link and a few clicks later; I had agreed to adopt her.  What was my happy-to-be-an-only dog going to do now?

Chelsea was an impulse adoption. That’s pretty unusual for me.  I usually approach decisions by weighing the pros and cons and thinking, not feeling my way to a decision.  I was immediately torn.  On the one hand, this decision felt right, almost as if I was nudged toward it.  On the other hand, I worried this was a bad idea for Teddy.  In fact, I worried until the day we went to pick her up.

I was a fool to worry.

Chelsea walked off the rescue’s transport van – no, scratch that.  She pranced and sashayed off the van in a way that I would come to realize was all her.  When she met Teddy, her grin got wider.  I got a home with another dog in it, she seemed to say. 

She was certain that two dogs, one person was the perfect combination.

Something remarkable happened to Teddy.  He was immediately smitten.  His polite aloofness melted away.  Something I didn’t know was missing for him had appeared in his life. 

When we got home and Chelsea walked into our house, she acted like a happy, giggly princess surveying her realm.  She walked from room to room, noticing where the sofa was (so she could take a nap on it later), finding the dog water bowl and taking a few laps and last, nosing among Teddy’s dog toys and selecting one for herself.  Teddy followed her, eyes shining with pleasure. 

She sweetly, confidently and joyously took over.  She insisted on walking through doors first, she pushed in front of Teddy for treats and praise.  He didn’t mind one bit.  She took the warmest spot in the sun or the comfy one on the sofa.  He was pleased for her.  She pushed her head in my lap to be petted first, sometimes making him wait. He just grinned. 

Teddy and Chelsea – 2 dogs, 1 person

Remarkably, his anxiety also disappeared.  It wasn’t just that Chelsea was there when I went to work, he simply felt more secure as part of a mini-pack and trusted in her confidence as much as she did.

Research shows that dogs feel love. Along the way, I learned that love and family meant somewhat different things to Teddy and Chelsea.  Teddy wanted to love and be loved back.  Chelsea wanted to share her love with multitudes.  When we went for a walk or to a gathering, she surged to each new person grinning, touching and often giving kisses.  Teddy nurtured his love for “his” handful of people (Chelsea included!), making it deeper each day. Chelsea expanded her love each moment and when it reached its edge, helped it expand even more.

Teddy yearned for a one-to-one bond and made it clear that I was his “person.” Chelsea wanted to be part of a family.  She loved everyone in “her” family equally and with outsized exuberance.  Teddy loved routine and order.  Chelsea simply loved fun.

Dogs come to teach us, I think. Chelsea changed how I thought about love. She was emotion in a dog’s body – joy, exuberance, happiness, curiosity, hope, humor, pleasure, enthusiasm, eagerness and of course, love. She was bursting with it, even smiling when she was asleep. She looked for ways to give it away, share it with you and bask in it.

Was this why I decided to click that adoption link based on my feelings, not my thinking?

Names, coming home and Teddy

I first saw Teddy online.  He was featured in a photo outdoors, his black coat contrasting with bright green summer grass.  He was handsome, I thought, and gave off an aura of acceptance. He had been found wandering with another dog in a Midwest state, eating out of dumpsters and trash cans, just focused on surviving.  When he was approached by someone intent on rescuing him, he proved to be gentle and allowing. 

Teddy was my first rescue dog.  I saw his picture and felt that tug of connection right away.  I had recently moved into my house, knowing it wouldn’t feel like a real home unless there was a dog in it.  I saw him in my mind’s eye, a medium size dog, maybe a Labrador retriever, with a happy go lucky personality.  It’s hard to tell some things from a small picture on a web page.

On his gotcha day, I drove to a neighboring state alone in my small Toyota Corolla.  The transport van was late, having hit traffic and other delays. One puppy after another was brought out from the van and put in the arms of very happy adopters.  When Teddy came out, I saw this tall, very large and lanky, rough-coated black dog who greeted me with a polite aloofness.  I was told how well behaved he was and how patient he was.  Most of the van had been filled with un-housebroken puppies, who fussed, slept and had many accidents all along the way. 

He politely waited for me to hand over the paperwork, accept his things and then he tugged me away.  After a short walk to stretch his legs, he jumped right in my car nearly filling the back seat.  Somehow he knew he was putting that part of his life behind him.

We arrived at my home well after dark, toured the house and back yard and waited for my son to come home after his shift ended at 11 pm. My son arrived while Teddy was exploring the house, sniffing, listening and checking every corner.  We took him out to the deck and the three of us sat there in the summer dark for a while.  Teddy went to explore the back yard his black coat disappearing in the night. He didn’t reappear.  “I think I left the gate open,” my son exclaimed and we both raced to find our new dog.  My heart pounding, I thought how a black dog can easily disappear into the night and not know how to find his way home. Then I heard my son say, “Come here, Mom.  You have to see this.”

And there in the driveway, was Teddy.  He was sitting patiently next to my small car, waiting to get in again.  After only a few hours and one car ride, he had decided this was his car and his family.  He wasn’t leaving.

He came from the rescue with the name Saint, which he never thought was his.  I think his Midwest foster thought it described his personality and in many ways it did.  He was gentle, patient and loving.  He was willing to try what we asked him, whether it was a simple thing like sitting or a new thing like “leave it.”  He listened intently to everything, learning our voices and absorbing our intentions. He was fierce in his concentration.

When I introduced him to people or talked about him to coworkers, they asked, “Why, is he called Saint?  Is he a Saint Bernard?”   I would explain that someone thought it described his personality, but it sounded lame, even to me. 

My son and I each came up with a short list of names we liked and thought would fit him.  I looked online for popular boy names while he pulled from names he liked in movies and favorite books.  We took him outside, sat him on the deck and tried out a succession of names.  I called him over saying, “Riley” but he just looked at me.  I even made smacking noises but he ignored those.  My son tried a different name, then another. Our black dog sat there politely, wagging just the end of his tail, waiting to see what we would do next.  Then I tried my favorite name, which I’d saved until last.  “Teddy!” I called.  He pricked his ears, and came over looking at me steadily.  “That’s the one, “I half shouted.  My son tried it too.  “Teddy!” he called and the dog padded over to him.  We’d picked a name, or rather, Teddy had picked his own name.  

We tried it a few more times, just to be sure.  Or rather, for us to be sure, because he had made his own decision and didn’t waver a bit. This was his home, that was his name and all was well.