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Dangerousness, trust and Callie

I drove 35 minutes to the animal control center to get Callie.  Getting a dog at an animal control center was a first for me since I usually met returned dogs and their relinquishing owners in a parking lot or their homes.  ‘Returned dogs’ are dogs returned to the rescue for one reason or another after they’ve been adopted.  As it turned out, Callie’s whole situation was a first for me.

Catching dog icon.

She was just over a year old, not old enough to cause all the chaos of the last month or so.  All I knew going in was that her owner said she was dangerous and animal control had used a catch pole at the veterinarian’s office to take her ‘into custody.’  A catch pole is used to catch potentially dangerous animals, often feral animals.  It consists of a pole with a loop on the end, which goes over the dog’s head and tightens around their neck.  Callie was a house dog, used to a leash.  I couldn’t imagine why anyone would need a catch pole to take a house dog out of a vet’s office. I was shocked when I heard this and Lucky Lab Rescue’s coordinator, Cindy, was aghast.  It was pretty unheard of. 

Because of her advance billing as a dangerous, out-of-control dog, I asked my son to come with me, in case I needed two sets of hands.  We brought only a leash, some treats and a couple of poop bags.  I was hoping we’d be okay.

The woman who’d adopted Callie six months before was mom to four children.  Her 11-year-old daughter was the oldest and considered Callie her best friend.  Her other children included a crawling baby and two in the middle, one of whom had autism.  I’m sure there were lots of kids going in all directions and it’s sometimes hard to monitor the dog-child interactions.  I get that. 

What the mom first told the vet was that the baby crawled to Callie while she was eating her kibble and Callie growled then snapped.  She waited till the next day to bring Callie into the vet for her scheduled vaccinations and by then the story had changed to a report of a vicious dog who bit a small child.  The mom wanted to never see the dog again.

So the vet called animal control.  They brought a catch pole.  They considered euthanizing her, but Cindy’s pleading forestalled that. The dog who’d been cuddling and playing with an 11-year-old girl was dragged by the neck to a concrete cage and had had no human touch from then on.  Since no skin was broken during the alleged bite, she didn’t have to be quarantined. On the drive, I wondered what I would find.

Dangerous Dog Act 1991

After we arrived, the animal control officer (ACO) said Callie had been isolated for two days.  They shoved her food and water in her kennel but never interacted with her.  The sign on the door of her kennel read ‘Dangerous Dog.’  There was a Great Pyrenees dog, twice her size, in the next kennel with the same sign.  Great Pyrenees are wonderful dogs bred to guard.  The ACO told me that the dog’s family were told they were getting a Golden Retriever and when the Great Pyrenees guarded the family’s daughter from her playmate, they freaked out.  I wished I could take that dog home with me, too.

Callie was a 40-pound brown dog with floppy ears, probably a lab mix.  She was brown all over: nose, eyes, nails and fur.  She crouched in a corner and looked absolutely terrified and not dangerous at all.

I told the officer that I wanted to go in and put a leash on her so I could walk her to my car.  The officer said, “She’s dangerous.  She growls and she won’t let anyone near her.”  I thought, If I don’t offer her my trust, how can she give me hers?

My son told the ACO, “You don’t know my mom.”

I went in keeping my back to the wall, talking softly to her.  She stared at me, looked at the door, then came over, slinking low to the ground.  I waited to see what she’d do next.  She wedged herself between me and the wall with her eyes squeezed shut.

Callie when she first arrived

“What a good idea, Callie.  What a good girl,” I crooned to her.  I talked to her, sang to her and finally dropped the handle of the leash next to her. She nudged it with her nose. 

“Want to go for a ride?” I asked as I put the leash on her.

I told the officer that she was ready to leave with me.  “We can lend you a crate,” he offered.  “I don’t think she should be loose in the car.” 

“Thanks, but I think we’ll be okay.”  My son piped up, “If my mom says she’ll be okay, she will.”

We gathered her records and walked outside, where she promptly did her business.  She obviously knew what to do on a walk.  She jumped without hesitation into my car, ready to leave the animal control center in the rear-view mirror.  Her eyes were wide, she panted and only looked a mite less scared.  As I usually do with a new dog, I sang silly songs and talked to her.   It took most of the drive before she relaxed, just a little bit. My son turned around and offered her a treat several times.

When I got home, I made careful introductions to my own two dogs and another foster, but everyone was pretty nonchalant. The other dogs didn’t consider her even a little bit menacing and I trusted their judgement.  I watched them greet each other in the way dogs do as I read her records, looking for a clue as to how a happy young dog who’d belonged to a family ended up being considered dangerous.

People can look at a dog and make a snap judgement.  To the 11-year-old daughter, Callie was a loving best friend.  To the animal control officer, she was a dangerous dog.  Right now, I was seeing tail wags and getting kisses.  We’d see where we went from here.  It was a matter of trust.

Two dogs, two loves, one family

When Teddy walked off the rescue van and into my life, I thought that having just one dog was perfect.  He had been billed as a dog who was happy to be an only dog, happy to be someone’s one and only.  That suited me too.  His warm, intelligent brown eyes watched my every move with approval, he loved our walks together and just hanging out.  He would put his head in my lap when I sat down and lean against me when I stood.  He was the perfect combination of polite but devoted.

One dog, one person.  Exactly the right number.

Teddy leans into Chelsea. Guess who has his toy?

A few months later, I was back on Lucky Lab Rescue’s site.  It wouldn’t hurt to look, I reasoned, just to read about other dogs looking for homes.  Then I saw Chelsea, a beautiful golden girl with a pink nose.  I quickly shut my laptop closed and said no way. 

The next day I went back on the site and I did it again the day after that.  I clicked on the link and a few clicks later; I had agreed to adopt her.  What was my happy-to-be-an-only dog going to do now?

Chelsea was an impulse adoption. That’s pretty unusual for me.  I usually approach decisions by weighing the pros and cons and thinking, not feeling my way to a decision.  I was immediately torn.  On the one hand, this decision felt right, almost as if I was nudged toward it.  On the other hand, I worried this was a bad idea for Teddy.  In fact, I worried until the day we went to pick her up.

I was a fool to worry.

Chelsea walked off the rescue’s transport van – no, scratch that.  She pranced and sashayed off the van in a way that I would come to realize was all her.  When she met Teddy, her grin got wider.  I got a home with another dog in it, she seemed to say. 

She was certain that two dogs, one person was the perfect combination.

Something remarkable happened to Teddy.  He was immediately smitten.  His polite aloofness melted away.  Something I didn’t know was missing for him had appeared in his life. 

When we got home and Chelsea walked into our house, she acted like a happy, giggly princess surveying her realm.  She walked from room to room, noticing where the sofa was (so she could take a nap on it later), finding the dog water bowl and taking a few laps and last, nosing among Teddy’s dog toys and selecting one for herself.  Teddy followed her, eyes shining with pleasure. 

She sweetly, confidently and joyously took over.  She insisted on walking through doors first, she pushed in front of Teddy for treats and praise.  He didn’t mind one bit.  She took the warmest spot in the sun or the comfy one on the sofa.  He was pleased for her.  She pushed her head in my lap to be petted first, sometimes making him wait. He just grinned. 

Teddy and Chelsea – 2 dogs, 1 person

Remarkably, his anxiety also disappeared.  It wasn’t just that Chelsea was there when I went to work, he simply felt more secure as part of a mini-pack and trusted in her confidence as much as she did.

Research shows that dogs feel love. Along the way, I learned that love and family meant somewhat different things to Teddy and Chelsea.  Teddy wanted to love and be loved back.  Chelsea wanted to share her love with multitudes.  When we went for a walk or to a gathering, she surged to each new person grinning, touching and often giving kisses.  Teddy nurtured his love for “his” handful of people (Chelsea included!), making it deeper each day. Chelsea expanded her love each moment and when it reached its edge, helped it expand even more.

Teddy yearned for a one-to-one bond and made it clear that I was his “person.” Chelsea wanted to be part of a family.  She loved everyone in “her” family equally and with outsized exuberance.  Teddy loved routine and order.  Chelsea simply loved fun.

Dogs come to teach us, I think. Chelsea changed how I thought about love. She was emotion in a dog’s body – joy, exuberance, happiness, curiosity, hope, humor, pleasure, enthusiasm, eagerness and of course, love. She was bursting with it, even smiling when she was asleep. She looked for ways to give it away, share it with you and bask in it.

Was this why I decided to click that adoption link based on my feelings, not my thinking?

Laughter, pranks and Chelsea

Chelsea had been part of our family for only a couple of weeks in December when Christmas arrived.  She watched presents being unwrapped, one by one.  When my son unwrapped a large, stuffed, mallard duck, she stopped and watched closely. When he squeezed it to make it squeak, her eyes began dancing.  He held it out to her.  She accepted it gently and raced around the house with it, stopping every now and then to shake it.  Once or twice she got close enough to her brother, Teddy, to whack him a little with the duck’s floppy head or tail.  She grinned and did again. And again.

Chelsea playfully refusing to get up for Oscar, photo by Sue McLaughlin Cunningham

After that it was a regular thing for her to take a stuffed toy or rope toy and shake it near Teddy’s head.  Soon she found out that she could whack him with it not once but twice if she got close enough.  So she did.  She would grin her infectious grin and he would grin back.  When she thought they had both grinned enough, she would drop the toy and do something else.

One afternoon, Teddy was sleeping and she was roaming the house.  She found a rope toy and brought it over to where he lay on the rug.  She whacked him a few times on the ear, then dropped the toy and grinned.  He lifted his head to see what had happened and she strolled to a favorite spot on the steps, lay down and closed her eyes.  I swear, if she could have fake snored, she would have.

Reverend Ted Loder wrote, “Laughter is a holy thing. When you can laugh at yourself, you are free.” Chelsea agreed. I’ve seen dogs join in our laughter or act goofy to make others smile.  For Chelsea, laughter was an act of joy. She would begin with a prank and then dare us not to laugh joyfully along with her.

When Chelsea and her brother, Teddy, became part of Sue’s playgroup, she was in seventh heaven.  Her exuberant personality had a whole new place to shine and new dogs to entertain.  She romped, she chased and she spent time with every dog there.  But, she saved her special pranks for just a few.  Sue’s own dog Oscar, a German Shepherd, was smitten with Chelsea from day one.  She ran shoulder to shoulder with him and they would lay in the shade to cool off together.

More than once, Chelsea would stop playing and plunk down on the grass.  She would lay on her side, facing away from Oscar, unmoving.   Oscar would bark at her, telling her to get up and play.  She would lay there, eyes open, grinning.  After a little while, when he had almost given up, she would spring to her feet, ready to play again. He would be surprised and happily chase after her.

Her funniest joke was when she decided to redesign her harness.  While she was learning to walk without yanking me off my feet, I got one of those harnesses constructed so when she pulled, she was pulled to her side and back toward me.  I bought one in hot pink and was thrilled by how much more control I had during the walk. 

Chelsea in her “thong”

Chelsea was not as thrilled.  After one early morning walk, I let her go out onto the back deck without taking the harness entirely off.  I slipped inside to grab a cup of coffee and she disappeared from sight.  A few minutes later she returned, the harness was chewed in two pieces with the remaining piece riding low around her hips – not around her shoulders as it was designed.  “What did you do?” I squawked. “That was a $45 harness!” 

Then I stopped and stared.  She looked like she was wearing a hot pink thong.  She grinned her sassy grin and streaked past me and up the stairs.  I found her on my son’s bed, cuddled next to him, feeling protected, looking smug.  “Chelsea chewed up her harness,” I said.  “And now she’s wearing a thong.”  My son and I laughed and ended up taking pictures of Chelsea, which I posted online.  She never wore a harness again.